How to increase your children’s self-esteem?

Self-esteem is at the core of a healthy and balanced lifestyle. People start to build their self-esteem during childhood.

Here are some tips parents should consider.

Why is self-esteem important?

Children who have a high self-esteem are more likely to discover new things; to try new activities; to learn new information; and to try their best in any area in their lives. In addition, a good self-esteem contributes to better cope with challenging situations; feel more proud; better learn social skills such as communication, social interactions, talking in front of others and initiating things. Children with good self-esteem are more likely to continuously move out of their comfort zones.

In contrast, kids with low self-esteem feel insecure and unsure of themselves. They are more likely to give up easily and to not stand up for themselves. It will be more difficult for them to develop their emotional intelligence and to learn how to effectively cope with difficult situations. They will be less prepared for later life. If you wish to learn more about emotional intelligence in children, click here.

How does self-esteem develop?

Self-esteem starts with new-born’s first breath and develops over time. It grows every time your baby gets positive attention; receives love and care; and feels loved and accepted. As babies grow and become children, they start to do things by themselves. For example, they feel good about themselves when they accomplish certain tasks using their own skills, ‘competences’ and solutions and when they receive positive feedbacks. These feedbacks can be a smile or a kind word that parents give them.

Self-esteem grow when a child feels understood; is accepted by parents and others; practices activities they love; makes progress and achieves new skills; is praised for positive behaviours; tries hard at something; makes social contacts; learns skills at school (music, sport, communication etc.); and acts kindly whilst treating others with respect and consideration.

How can parents increase their children’s self-esteem?

You can help your children continuously learn new things. Teach them how to do things, even if they make mistakes. Learning will expand their areas of interest and make them move out of their comfort zone. Don’t forget to praise your children for their achievements (without overpraising). Focus on your child’s strengths and positively reinforce them. Don’t focus on their weaknesses and when you need to criticise, do it in a constructive way. To learn more about positive reinforcement, click here. To learn more about parenting styles, click here.

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With warm wishes,

Dr Ivanka Ezhova

Founder of Angel Psychological Therapy - Online Psychological Therapy